How do I know if I need counselling?
Only you can decide whether you wish to try counselling. Just talking to someone confidentially who is not a friend or family member can make all the difference. Counselling provides a regular time for those in distress to explore their feelings and talk about their problems. Counselling can help you develop better ways of coping, allowing you to live the life you deserve.
What kinds of problems can I talk to a counsellor about?
There are no hard and fast rules. If something is troubling you it can be worth spending some time thinking about why this may be happening. There are, however, a number of issues that frequently come up, for example:
- Relationship difficulties: couples counselling, relationship counselling, marriage counselling, family and friends, colleagues, commitment, jealousy, abuse
- Family issues: partners, children, parenting, separation and divorce
- Lack of confidence: never being good enough, feeling judged
- Depression: feeling isolated, lonely, empty, tearful, unloved, suicidal, binge eating, harming oneself, abusive relationships, lack of control, panic attacks, feelings of inadequacy
- Breavement: loss, anger, loneliness, sadness, depression
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Low self-esteem
- Anger management / issues
The counsellor can also direct you to other services that may be useful to you.
How will I feel after my sessions?
Counselling is hard work; you are likely to find it draining so you need to plan ways to look after yourself. You will probably need to have some space to think after sessions.
Counselling can be upsetting or unsettling in the short term. Talking about painful events and feelings and challenging thought patterns can be tough as well as life-changing.
What is the role of the Counsellor?
The counsellor is not there to advise you or “sort you out”; their role is to help you to work through things which are troubling you.
Work is on a one to one basis with individuals, and with couples where both parties choose to come into counselling voluntarily. Trinder works short and long-term.